6 REASONS WHY COUPLES SHOULD AVOID THE COUCH
My girlfriend and I are coming up on our third year together and in these past two OR SO years we have tried our absolute hardest not to fall into a monotonous routine with each other. Our previous relationships had proved that a boring nightly routine quickly leads to disengagement, resentment, and often THAT DOWNWARD SPIRAL CAN BE TRACKED BACK TO the couch.
I’m not saying that the couch is the only downfall of the modern relationship, or that we shouldn’t sit on the couch at all - what I am suggesting is that maybe couch time can be saved exclusively for moments like Sunday hangovers and rainy weeknights.
Still not convinced? Here are six reasons why avoiding the couch more could save your relationship.
1. Being too comfortable makes you...too comfortable
How many times have you come home, kicked off your shoes, taken off your bra/belt and then sat on the couch and done nothing for the rest of the night? I’ll bet it’s too many times. Sacrificing a small amount of comfort and avoiding the couch keeps you active and engaged in life and therefore each-other.
2. You don’t get laid as much
This one is pretty self explanatory. Passion is more likely to take over away from the couch and not be stifled by the apathetic sensation that its comfort brings.
3. You're taking good company for granted
One of the biggest traps of the couch is that it almost always faces a TV. It just takes one click of a button, and then what follows is human silence. You simply sit next to each other and stare, silently, at the little box on the wall. You might as well be sitting alone.
4. YOU'RE SACRAFISING THE 'GETTING TO KNOW EACH OTHER' PHASE
Getting to hear about each other’s day and actually bonding over life experiences is a good test of how compatible you are with each other. Do you run out of things to talk about? Or does the conversation flow like beers on a Friday? If he or she is going to be in your life more than anyone, the conversation should never stop.
5. LAZY ACTS CAN CREATE LAZY PEOPLE
Often too much couch time can manifest itself to other lazy habits. It can lead to slacking off on house work, or even worse - slacking off from being a good partner. Be wary of this negative domino affect and keep your eyes on the prize.
6. YOU'RE NEGLECING YOUR OTHER INTERESTS
Usually the first thing to go as a relationship progresses is individuality. Admittedly, spending every second together is one of the nice parts of a relationship, but as time goes on it becomes important to maintain your own interests as well. So instead of sitting on the couch doing nothing together, you could build on your own interest which in the long run will strengthen your relationship.
BE HONEST... How much more quality time could you and your PARTNER spend together if you didn’t migrate automatically to the couch after dinner?
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WORDS BY: Alex Osborne
Born in Melbourne, Alex spent his time scribbling in the dark before he earned a degree in journalism on a basketball scholarship in Nebraska. Now retired from both, he spends his days brewing beer, writing poetry and flash fiction, teasing his flatmate’s poodle and listening to PBS blues on Sundays.