LISTEN UP LOVERS! 10 TIPS TO MAKE A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP WORK
IT’S 9PM ON A SATURDAY NIGHT. YOUR FRIENDS HAVE DRAGGED YOU OUT TO THE NEWEST RESTAURANT IN THE CITY. THE FOOD IS GOOD, THE COCKTAILS ARE EVEN BETTER AND EVERYONE IS LAUGHING BUT YOU CAN THINK OF ONLY ONE THING. GETTING HOME TO SKYPE YOUR BELOVED WHO WILL BE WAKING UP HALFWAY ACROSS THE WORLD ANY MINUTE NOW.
Your friends’ think you are wasting your time, your parents think it’s a phase. When did we lose our faith in absence makes the heart grow stronger? Well, lovers we have great news! A new study says long distance relationships can be just as successful as your average boy-next-door geographically close relationship. The secret? Confidence and trust in your relationship. Seems simple enough, right? These are our top 10 tips to making your long distance relationship work.
1. GET ON THE SAME PAGE
What are your expectations for your relationship? Be honest with each other. One of the first things you need to consider is, if this is a short-term or long-term arrangement? Then think about what you need from your partner to make your relationship work? Do you need to hear their voice every day or perhaps a funny cat GIF to make you smile will suffice? I repeat, be honest with each other. Remember your needs will evolve as your relationship grows, so have this conversation multiple times.
2. DO WHAT YOU SAY
Okay, so you’ve set your expectations and have decided what you need to do to make your relationship work. Now, do it. It’s great to say you will call every night at 9pm but if you don’t follow through with this promise your beloved will find it very hard to be confident in your relationship. We all understand that life can sometimes get in the way and a call every night may not be possible but making a conscious effort to try will go a long way!
3. COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE
We’ve all heard this over and over again. Communication is that pearl of wisdom everyone loves to give, right? Well I am here to tell you, there is a reason for that! Communication is the key to any successful relationship whether it near or far. It’s not complicated. You’ve just gotta talk. You will miss each other, that is how you achieve the ‘heart grows fonder‘ part. So tell your lover how you feel. Chances are they are feeling the same way.
4. DO THINGS TOGETHER
Do you share a common love for a hobby? Set aside time each week to do something together. Take an online cooking class – your heart and stomach will thank you! Challenge yourselves – Youtube and Pinterest are full of fitness workouts to get you moving. If exercise ain’t your thing, watch a TV series, listen to a podcast or read a book at the same time. The key word here is together, lovers!
5. SHOW YOUR SEXY SIDE
Sex is important for all relationships. You may be apart from your love but there is no reason you can’t still enjoy sexual experiences with them. Some will feel much more confident in this department than others so I’ll leave this one up to you but a good place to start is sending sexy texts to get your minds racing.
6. SHARE YOUR EVERYDAY LIFE
You’ve just moved to a new city for a once in a lifetime job opportunity. Everything is brand new. Share the excitement with your partner. Use apps like Snapchat or Periscope to take them on video tours of your everyday life. What’s your fav spot for people-watching? Where have you discovered the best coffee? How do you get to work everyday? Don’t tell them, show them! That way they can visualise where you are and feel a part of your daily life.
7. PUT THE PHONE DOWN
Travel to see each other in person as often as possible. There is nothing like your love’s touch to strengthen your relationship. You will come to appreciate the small things – holding each other’s hand, catching them smiling at you, them cleaning their apartment for your visit. This is one of the your advantages over geographically close relationships, who mostly take these things for granted. So make the trip. It will always be worth it.
8. SURPRISE YOUR LOVER
Seeing each other in person regularly may not be an option for your relationship so why not surprise your lover with gifts to remind them how much you care? You can use an online service to deliver almost anything now – flowers, wine, dessert, clothes, shoes, let your imagination run wild! But who says it has to cost money? A hand-written letter in the mail is something your beloved can cherish forever and read over when they are missing you.
9. STAY POSITIVE
We all know long distance relationships have a bad rep. Most of us believe distance equals death to the relationship. You can understand why many lose hope. Some days it will be far from a walk in the park. But you must remember you have science backing you up! Stay positive. When you allow your optimism to disappear you start to lose confidence in your relationship, and we all know how that can end. So when your feeling down, think of why and who you are doing this for. That’s sure to put a smile on that beautiful face of yours.
10. TAKE YOUR OWN PATH
All these tips may not be for you and that’s okay. We are all individuals so how can our relationships all be the same? We are not manufactured toys; we are human beings with complex emotional needs. So, take your own path. Work out what’s best for you and run with it. The most important thing is to enjoy yourself along the way.
WHAT’S THE MOST INSANE THING YOU’VE DONE TO KEEP YOUR LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP INTERESTING?
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WORDS BY: Ashleigh Yardy
Ashleigh is a 20-something writer, engrossed in the world of politics and international aid with a shameless soft spot for real-ity TV, its all real right? She's a proud bargain hunter who diligently pursues her role as Ikea's unofficial ambassador. Her writing is inspired by the intrigue, perplexity and awesomeness of this thing called life.